the Senorita | Discovering Her

Do you want to learn? A teacher is always willing to teach you. Are you stuck with some technical problem? There are millions of users online who will love to help you out. Are you unhappy and you want someone to take care of you? You will find your girlfriend extending a helping hand for you.

Now think for a few minutes. Think about the times when you were in a problem and sooner or later you found someone to help you. In some form or another there were people helping you whenever you were in trouble. There could have been times when your friend wanted your help. Though, when she saw that you were in a mess she put herself second, and chose to comfort you instead so that a tough situation didn’t seem so rough all of a sudden. So why can’t you repeat the act? Why not?

One of a woman’s most prominent characteristics is to take care of her man. If she admires him then his portrait is imprinted on her brain all the time. She tries to find out what he likes and what he doesn’t. She tries hard to fulfill his needs. She is ready to give whenever possible. She is worried if he is unhappy; and she is ready to listen to what he has to say; and if it were solely in her hands, she’d even solve his problems for him. To summarize, she is ready to give more and more just to make him happy.

Nonetheless, don’t forget that there is a limit to every behavior. When you weren’t happy she was there with you, which is why for you the relationship was heading the right direction. But, do you ever think about her? Are you actually concerned about her? After all she is a human too!

Men need to understand that women have a habit of giving more and more without expecting anything in return, but there comes a time when she starts feeling needy. Those are the times when they will want men to fulfill their end of the bargain, and if that doesn’t happen, the relationship goes to gallows.

Remember that women are gifted with the potential to withstand any kind of problems, which you are facing. And in return they deserve a LOT more than what you are currently giving to her.

Do not give birth to the situation where she ends the relationship with the lines “I gave you a lot. I was there with you when you needed me. Yet, when I gave you a chance to show me what you can do for me, you made me realize that I deserve a lot more. Sorry… but I think we are done.”

So, better start giving before it’s too late.

Warning: There are times when women want men to just sit next to them and listen to what they are saying. Note this, just shut up and listen. In this article I tried to explain the situation when she actually needs more than just your presence.

Subscribe to email feeds to know the difference between the times when you have to be the listener and when you have to be the one who gives. I will write about this during the coming Sundays.

Believe it or not guys but your father’s attitude, behavior, lifestyle, etc. has left an impact on you. You might consider yourself to be ‘you’ but a certain percent of your characteristics are inherited from your parents, particularly your father. It is the age-old DNA dilemma, but one that should be cherished (although many males do consider these characteristics to be among their weaknesses; nevertheless, with this article I will try my best to eliminate that misconception).

There might have been times when you saw your father not having “that-kind-of” romance in his life. This might be so because when you started observing your parents’ relationship, it was already too late. Your father was busy with his professional life, and had the least amount of time for your mom. Growing up with a not-so-successful role model, your brain (which educates itself from the surroundings) developed an idea that even you will fail with females. And to add salt to the injury, IF somehow your first go with a girl starts off shaky, you force yourself to think that it is all because of you, and that you just can’t make it.

Starting a friendship with a girl and continuing with the relationship can seem like going on a jumbo jet ride without any proper training.

Thoughts move from bad to worse and you are now afraid of taking care of your friend just because you think you will mess it up. At this stage, you need to understand that you and your role model are two separate human beings at two separate stages of their life. It might be true that you are failing in your life BUT that does not mean it is because your father used to fail. You are failing because you don’t believe in yourself.

The Solution:

Remember that you are totally different and you can be better than your father. Before breakfast, before lunch, before dinner, and before going to bed, do not forget to tell yourself that you won’t fail and you will get through it. The moment your brain starts feeling against failure, believe me, you will be her hero once again.

You need to show her that you are not afraid of trying, that you care, and you do not want to mess things up. Talk to her and clear up all the doubts, and you yourself will feel the breeze of change blowing. Females usually appreciate guys’ efforts, and your past failures won’t keep them from giving you a second chance. They also love to live for today like the rest of the world.

Note: Suggestions above are for those males who believe in living their lives with one girl instead of ten (though you can give it a shot). If your father was the most romantic husband on planet earth then consider yourself to be very lucky…

Arrange for some chocolates plus a special gift for her and place these around her while she is sleeping. Arrange these gifts in a manner that whenever she wakes up she sees the gifts first. Now wait for her to wake up and as she comes out of her dreams, just do it! To add juice to the moment play some soft music in the background and remove the curtains so that sun enlightens the room with its warm rays.

You might need some help from her family members if you plan to follow this tip to propose her. Her sister might help you out here. Remember NOT to make the moment too flashy. You are about to propose her and not celebrating a kids birthday. Idea of magnetic bracelets might also do wonders.

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.

What women want is the world’s slimmest book. Shocked? The point is IF we understand them, then of course it will be the most slimmest. But men have somehow forced themselves to believe that women are the most complex creatures on planet earth.

Here I have gathered a few points which men can follow to attract her attention; but remember, do NOT think about applying all of these on one female. No two brains are the same.

Return Their Messages

Are you too busy to reply to her childish messages? Think again. She is busy with her life too. Amidst everything she keeps sharing her happy moments with you. Try the same and your efforts won’t go awry.

Dress Up For Her

Have you ever been yelled at by your mothers for not keeping your room clean? I think all of us have faced this at least once in our lifetime. The point is - females love to see things in order. Dressed up men are always cherished by them. In any case, a proper sense of dressing is also very necessary.

Cook For Her

Can you think of any one reason why for she won’t appreciate this effort of yours?

Make Her Feel Important

No doubt you got tons of attitude problems. Give this a try once regardless. Keep your ego aside and make her feel how important she is to you. Like opening a car door for her. These small efforts add up to your “good characteristics”, which she always makes a note of.

Be Patient With Her

Does she consume a huge amount of time while shopping? Great, she is a normal woman! Don’t you love watching football (or whatever your best sport is), and whenever you have your friends accompanying you the match becomes extra exciting. It is because you are able to share your excitement. Every visit to the mall is no less than a new game for each female and she tries her best to share her excitement with you. Just be a part of it.

Don’t Let Her Wait

If you are regularly late for dates just because you think you are a complete man then believe me you are loosing her.

Propose A Visit To Her Family

Girls are closer to there parents when compared to guys. Your job is to make her feel how important “her” family is for you. This way both she and her family will appreciate your efforts. But remember, you have got a family also, and they deserve first preference.

Listen Instead Of Providing Solutions

Her problems aren’t math questions that you start solving them. Women love to talk and share. Be silent and let her do that. You will be amazed at the end results.

Give Her Cards

NOT all, but a great deal of females love receiving cards. 

Dance With Her

This might be a rare chance if you are bound with cultures but IF you ever get the chance, don’t miss it.

To summarize the complete article women love chivalry and respect. It is all about the extent to which you are patient with her.

In our subsequent articles (every Sunday) we will explore many of the above points in details so subscribe to receive updates via email. Stay with us. We will Discover Her!

This being the first article under the category proposal tips, I thought why not start with the traditional style of proposing her. In coming weeks we will explore unique ways to propose your beloved and make the moment special for her. Like taking her for a las vegas strip.

Even though this seems to be a very simple way to propose a girl you can add your touches to make it memorable. Take her to some place which has least number of people to avoid any kind of disturbances. Arrange for soft music (your car can help out with this) and start your regular talks. Once everything is flowing in the right direction and if you are convinced that she is in happy mood, then why wait? Go down to your knees and do not forget that red rose.

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.