10 Efforts Of Men Which Women Appreciate
What women want is the world’s slimmest book. Shocked? The point is IF we understand them, then of course it will be the most slimmest. But men have somehow forced themselves to believe that women are the most complex creatures on planet earth.
Here I have gathered a few points which men can follow to attract her attention; but remember, do NOT think about applying all of these on one female. No two brains are the same.
Return Their Messages
Are you too busy to reply to her childish messages? Think again. She is busy with her life too. Amidst everything she keeps sharing her happy moments with you. Try the same and your efforts won’t go awry.
Dress Up For Her
Have you ever been yelled at by your mothers for not keeping your room clean? I think all of us have faced this at least once in our lifetime. The point is - females love to see things in order. Dressed up men are always cherished by them. In any case, a proper sense of dressing is also very necessary.
Cook For Her
Can you think of any one reason why for she won’t appreciate this effort of yours?
Make Her Feel Important
No doubt you got tons of attitude problems. Give this a try once regardless. Keep your ego aside and make her feel how important she is to you. Like opening a car door for her. These small efforts add up to your “good characteristics”, which she always makes a note of.
Be Patient With Her
Does she consume a huge amount of time while shopping? Great, she is a normal woman! Don’t you love watching football (or whatever your best sport is), and whenever you have your friends accompanying you the match becomes extra exciting. It is because you are able to share your excitement. Every visit to the mall is no less than a new game for each female and she tries her best to share her excitement with you. Just be a part of it.
Don’t Let Her Wait
If you are regularly late for dates just because you think you are a complete man then believe me you are loosing her.
Propose A Visit To Her Family
Girls are closer to there parents when compared to guys. Your job is to make her feel how important “her” family is for you. This way both she and her family will appreciate your efforts. But remember, you have got a family also, and they deserve first preference.
Listen Instead Of Providing Solutions
Her problems aren’t math questions that you start solving them. Women love to talk and share. Be silent and let her do that. You will be amazed at the end results.
Give Her Cards
NOT all, but a great deal of females love receiving cards.
Dance With Her
This might be a rare chance if you are bound with cultures but IF you ever get the chance, don’t miss it.
To summarize the complete article women love chivalry and respect. It is all about the extent to which you are patient with her.
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I always see this kinds of things and think with myself: i do all those things when possible and i never, ever, ever see the other way. Sometimes(if not mostly) i don’t get messages back, i’m not apreciated as i should, and so on… i’m not asking for someone that cooks for me or those kinds of old fashioned stuff i just want to be treated the same way you, girls, expect to be treated as well. Equalty of treatment for both sex. Doesn’t it sound familiar?
Comment by flavio — January 14, 2008 @ 2:06 am
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Comment by flavio — January 14, 2008 @ 2:07 am
someone needs to update their opinions on women and stop reading 50’s manuals on how to keep a housewife happy and be “chivalrous.” if you want to make a woman happy, be interesting, be confident, be EQUAL, and if she really wants to go dutch, go dutch.
p.s. in the same way that a ton of men don’t like sports, there are a ton of women like me who don’t spend hours shopping.
Comment by eli skipp — January 14, 2008 @ 5:02 am
In addition to this being really sexist, there are a lot of spelling and grammatical errors.
Flavio: If you treat a woman like a child, can you reasonably expect her to be anything other than a bitch to you? Women can tell when you’re being a condescending ass.
Comment by miss macaroni — January 14, 2008 @ 7:27 am
I don’t think this is sexist, it has to do with being considerate and respectful. I strongly believe women and men should treat each other as equals, though we should also acknowledge that both sexes are inherently different biologically and emotionally. We should embrace these differences and realize they don’t make us unequal. Many of these gestures can go the other way. What man doesn’t like a woman to dress up for him once in a while, or cook, sit down and watch a football game. Some men might not want card, but there are other things one can do. Really, it’s just a sign to let the person you care about know you are thinking of them. I like to send my boyfriend articles I come across that I think he will enjoy reading.
I also think people shouldn’t take the examples given with such offense. These are just examples of possible gestures. Of course some women don’t like shopping, maybe you like painting, paintballing or whatever!
Comment by cc — January 14, 2008 @ 9:45 am
Flavio, good luck with the equal partnership, I hope you find it. Salman, I’m sure your thoughtful nature will help you in love and in life.
Comment by lyrical — January 14, 2008 @ 10:13 am
@flavio: I might not have understood your state completely but still I can leave one small suggestion. Do not expect the messages to come back. Why not just give, give and give and if you deserve it then messages will of course come back. If you want we can discuss this in my mail box. See my contact form.
@ eli skipp: before I started to list the 10 points I did point out that no two brains are same. It is great that you do not spend hours shopping similarly as I do not spend hours watching games. But here I had to consider the masses and remember these were JUST examples as cc has pointed out. It was a true booster and I will appreciate if you continue to throw tomatoes on me when I publish other articles in coming sundays. Please do come back with all the rotten vegetables.
@ miss macaroni: I would love to hear more from you. It will help me understand all kinds of brains. Thanks for the bashing. I love negative comments.
@ cc: Thank You! This is exactly what I was about to write at the end of this comments. These were just examples and I did point out that no two brains are same. Next time I will pay more attention on pointing out that these are JUST examples and they can go the other way too. Keep coming back cc..
@lyrical: I hope it does. And I hope it helps others too, those who will be reading my articles. Thank you for the comment and please keep coming back.
Comment by Salman — January 14, 2008 @ 1:06 pm
This IS sexist as it makes the assumption that all women are exactly the same and want the same thing. What kind of retard would have to be told to return their girlfriends messages anyway? I’m surprised they haven’t addded the old favourites of ‘Buy your girlfriends flowers cos all women love flowers’ its because of crap like this that I always get bought flowers and perfume as gifts by unimaginative men because someone told them ‘thats what all women want’ If men really need some advice I think you should look at your girlfriend as an INDIVIDUAL and figure out what she likes and dislikes or maybe ASK her what she likes…..if you really can’t figure it out then your relationship is going nowhere anyway……
Comment by Joanne — January 14, 2008 @ 11:50 pm
This is dumb as hell. I cannot stress this enough.
Comment by Leaves — January 15, 2008 @ 8:24 am
As a woman, I think some of the suggestions are nice and thoughtful.
However, I don’t like how you ended the article with “It is all about the extent to which you are patient with her.” THAT makes us sound like whiny children who must be tolerated instead of equals. The key to a woman’s heart is not be saying “Silly woman. She just wants me to look like I enjoy shopping.” The key to a woman’s heart is through kindness, equality, respect, and love.
Comment by Enigma — January 16, 2008 @ 9:02 pm
@Enigma: I agree to what you said Enigma. Actually what I meant with that sentence “It is all about the extent to which you are patient with her.” was that you must listen to her when she wants to talk. I have pointed that thing up there under the heading “Listen Instead Of Providing Solutions”.. Somehow I messed up with that sentence and the article ended up creating a totally different meaning I guess. Still thank you for your comment and I hope you will keep coming back. I am ready to publish another article this Sunday and views from females on article which are about females is truly awesome.
@Joanne: As replied to comments above those were just examples. As cc pointed out “Of course some women don’t like shopping, maybe you like painting, paintballing or whatever!”..
Comment by Salman — January 16, 2008 @ 9:12 pm
I think these are true and valid things women generally like. Do hope the women reciprocate the kind gestures and do things men like.
Comment by Love Dating — January 29, 2008 @ 2:06 pm
I’m dating someone now who does all of those things for me. Sometimes it’s the simplest of things, like listening to me or wanting to go shopping with me just so we can spend time together. These ideas may not work for everyone, but they’re dead on for me.
Comment by sillyjen — February 3, 2008 @ 1:21 pm
I’m calling shenanigans… I’ve done everything for this girl, even things that were not on that list. I started being the most romantic guy ever… but she, like all of them, wanted the bad boy… I had all sorts of women tell me how they would love to be treated like that… and nothing worked… FILLING a house with candles, leaving small gifts around that place, surprising her at work with dinner when she was stressed and there late, the list goes on and on…
So to all you women out there who are looking for a successful, intelligent, funny, romantic, thoughtful man… you can thank her for murdering another… women dream of that man and when they get him, there is no chase, no challenge, and he gets boring. I will laugh when I get the “I messed up, I want you back!” phone call, cause that man she knew doesn’t exist anymore!
Comment by T — February 5, 2008 @ 4:38 am
“The point is - females love to see things in order. Dressed up men are always cherished by them. In any case, a proper sense of dressing is also very necessary.”
This is why Peewee Herman was such a wolf with the ladies.
Comment by You — February 6, 2008 @ 7:17 pm
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Please go back and take a remedial writing course. Learn the difference between “there” and “their”, and between “loose” and “lose”. The writing on this page is atrocious!
Oh, you might also learn how to construct a sentence with a beginning, middle and end.
Even the information on your contact page is seriously lacking punctuation. You should be ashamed to have your name attached to this. Actually, you should stop messing on the internet, and pay more attention to school - no way should you have been awarded a high school diploma when you can’t even write a basic sentence.
Comment by Karen — May 27, 2008 @ 6:36 am
Yes this article can maybe some what helpful but you cant always be to nice you have to sometimes be agressive in a passive yet demanding in a quiet way.What i have learned is that women dont want a man thats to nice or there all of the time because he then seems clingy, insecure, un confident and the list goes on. You have to know how to spice it up just right. Show her love, affection, understanding, sweetnes BUT DONT OVER DO IT I am sorry to say it but you might have to be an ass sometimes and say NO I mean it all about equality anyway. Everything needs a good balance of good and bad, chaos and neutrality to be stable. Heres an example: if somebody tries to take a dump on your lawn you can either A say please don’t drop a load in my yard or B whip out the garden and demand the person take a dump on the neighbors lawn. In some cases A might works but in others you have to use B. ( Can someone help me with a better example I don’t think I was clear enough I am kinda at loss for words.)
Comment by mysterious — June 13, 2008 @ 10:21 am
(I know I made some mistakes in my previous comment so before anyone tries to slander my intelligence Fudge off)
Comment by mysterious — June 13, 2008 @ 10:48 am
@ mysterious: you explained that very well bud. This was the first article which I wrote and in my subsequent articles I have written that sentence “BUT DONT OVER DO IT” again and again. One important quality which females look for in males is their confidence and their attitude. We have to (sometimes) cling to our attitude to get their attention!
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The most important one of your whole list that I have discovered by listening to what wives are telling me is that they want their husbands to listen and not give advice. Women love their husbands but they also want independence to think and do what they believe is right. But, you are right - women really want to talk about things and have their husband (lover, spouse, boyfriend etc) support them in what they are saying by nodding and agreeing.
Comment by Laurie from How to Make My Wife Happy — November 24, 2008 @ 4:12 am
this entire article makes women sound uneducated, and it’s not just the abundance of spelling/grammar errors.
i’m glad i never dated a superficial airhead. i’m also glad i’m not the (apparently) stereotypical football watching male who never cooks.
my girlfriend rocks thanks to her intelligence, beauty, and amazing attitude. and i make sure she knows it.
Comment by andrew — November 24, 2008 @ 11:16 pm