the Senorita | Discovering Her

Isn’t that one of the most spoken about questions? The unsaid rule of nature is that women generally talk more than men and that is a very important reason to why I am able to spend 8 hours nonstop in my institute without getting bored. Several guys, sometimes, tend to get fed up of this behavior leading to a relationship that slowly looses its charm. Instead, if guys knew why women talk so much then certain problems won’t ever show up.

Problems appear, when men aren’t in the mood to talk, but women continue to speak. She does not seem to understand what he wants at that time, and the situation will keep moving from bad to worse. In such cases, the guys will have to understand why she is so eager to talk.

Ever analyzed the situation when you talk more than normal? You do that to collect information or to convey thoughts. Women aren’t different from you. Whenever they want to convey their thoughts or collect information, they talk.

Another reason for talking too much is when she is trying to deal with a state of confusion. When most men are confused about something, they go into their bunkers and stop talking for a while. On the contrary, women talk more to discover what it is that she is confused about?

When men are upset they go into their hideouts to cool off, while women love to share their problems. They start searching for someone who they can talk to about their problems. She feels better and that feeling of loneliness dies down once she shares those problems.

Men go silent when they want to get to know themselves better, whereas women share their feelings to discover their inner self. Men are afraid that too much company can rob them of themselves; while sharing everything out loud is the way a female will discover herself.

Now let me get back to the practical example, which I pointed out earlier in this article. Revert back to those moments when you weren’t in the mood to talk; yet she was constantly speaking. You know why? Just because you weren’t speaking. For a female sharing thoughts with the right person is the easiest way to feel comfortable, and when men go silent an insecurity of sorts creeps up. This feeling of insecurity compels her to talk even more.

Next time when you get the feeling that she is talking too much, tell yourself that there is some reason behind it: either she is confused at something, she is feeling lonely, she is trying to gather information, she is trying to convey her thoughts or maybe she is just trying to discover herself. Plus, do add the last point, she might be feeling insecure because you aren’t talking.

So from today don’t be angry with her because she talks too much. Instead, try to understand the motives behind the behavior. Be patient with her, and this will enhance understanding between the two of you.