the Senorita | Discovering Her

I have already written a lot about this before but somehow I kept feeling the need to write about this once again to emphasize on few more points which I missed out the last time.

For males speech is the way of sharing knowledge and the best way to find peace is to stay lonely sometimes. If he is talking too much then it is just because he is very excited and is free from all his problems. Thus, they expect a similar behavior from females. When she shares her problems he starts searching for solutions and this is his biggest mistake.

For females sharing thoughts and talking about their problems is the best way to cool off their brains. When they share their problems, they expect their partners to sit back and listen to them with full dedication. And she gets frustrated once he starts working on the solutions for those problems.

Once she is confused at something she will prefer to talk about it and with time he will observe how easily she puts forward all the minute details of her problems in front of him. Here, instead of providing a solution all what he needs to do is ask her “So what will you be doing? I am sure you have a way out of this.” Believe me, she herself will put forward the solution. She wasn’t ever looking for a solution from you, she just wanted some boost up so that her confidence level increases.

Similarly at times she might first talk about one problem and then suddenly jump over to the other problem. She may even go on to talk about three to four problems at one time and leaves him confused about the kind of solution he should provide. He starts relating those problems and finds himself frustrated once he fails to relate those problems.

Now you know the reason for her behavior? She finds relief when she talks about her problems so better let her do the talking; and also, boost her confidence by telling her that she is capable of solving it herself. She will feel cherished.

What is it exactly that makes you do something? Specially when it comes to making a friend with someone belonging to an opposite sex, what is it exactly that you look for? Well your answer can range from good looks to good nature if you are a boy but for girls there is something more important than anything else, it is not love, neither it is care, nor it is money, it is HAPPINESS. It is that smile which makes her look the most beautiful girl in the world. All that she wants from you is that you must have that charisma to make her smile the way no one does.

A start of any relationship is marked with some cute exchange of eye contact, some meetings, some phone calls, some chats and everything else. She starts believing the guy and then develops a certain rationality of a human emotion, the one we refer as love. But then again all this while she has one thing in common and it is that smile, yeah that very smile that comes on her face every time she sees her phone buzzing with your sms, but gradually each one of us has a limited number of innovative cards in our pocket and time and again it becomes harder for us to fetch the new jokes and a new humor and then comes a period when someone new to her life, it can be even our friend or someone new in the list of friends of her life that can bring that very smile which we no longer have the ability to bring. Then again we distract from the basic path and tries to make her feel special by speaking our heart out to her, saying again and again how much we love her but that is not which can make things special again. Well then again, i must repeat that she is neither betraying you nor is your relationship at a dangerous level of sudden end but there is something that surely is ending, yeah gradually it is ending and that is the element of fun in between you two. Neither your tears nor your hugs and kisses, nothing will be able to get it back cos all that she actually wants is a smile, a lighter moment, a sort of wings that can make her feel in the air when she is with you. Don’t you think that some of these things happen again and again, this decrease of fun with the passage of time and all.

That ridiculous absence of fun is what results in the feeling of taking each other for granted, i mean yeah! You do have a partner that is there for you to share your pains and problems but i am sorry to say that now a days no one wants that. Just take her as just another friend, i mean be in love with her but talk to her just the way you talk to your male buddies, crack jokes, be yourself and there is no need to show her too much that you love her etc etc… all those sentimental talks are not the reason why she talks to you, the reason is that she laughs when she is with you so why not just do that, make her smile, you know it how to do that! You had always done that! So do it now also, she is not the person to expect returns but to give only, accept this fact, don’t get frustrated by this fact but if you will feel it and have the ability to refresh your mind then you would feel that i am right.

Summing up the content for all those who had ended up confused by reading all this :

• make her smile as long as she is with you
• tears and compassion are not that important as much as your jokes are
• let her never be able to know you completely, always have a surprise for her
• hide your pains and problems from her also just the way you do it from everyone else
• all that matters between you two and the soul reason why you two got engaged had always been the smile and fun that you shared and nothing else.

Flirt with her or do whatever that turns her on, giving her a pair of new ear rings or taking her out for a movie is not that important as much as that little joke she can hear from you at an unexpected ramdom moment, you always expected her to be the one in whose lap you can share your failures but sadly and quickly accept the fact that her love is there at the best till the time you are at the edge, she will be there to help you every time but eventually without even her notice her love will decrease. Let yourself be the one for whose phone call she waits and waits cos with you she has the best time of her life and that best time can never come from sentimental talks or tears of love or anything else, keep it simple and just be make her smile and that’s it!! Try it today!!

This article is a guest post from Pulkit, a passionate print media writer, who is trying hard to switch to this mad planet of bloggers. He happens to be a great friend of mine and possess all the ingredients to be a famous blogger. Do check his new blog on blogger.

Let me ask a simple question. If you think that she isn’t that special that you give her all the happiness then why do you run behind her? Why do you call her daily and regularly want her to come out for dates? Believe me, she deserves more than what you are currently doing for her.

Females are that creation of God who have been gifted with qualities like perseverance, caring nature, thoughtful brains (even though they tend to commit blunders sometimes but isn’t such behavior part of their beauty?) and the quality of helping those for whom they care.

While she is young and the relationship between her and her partner is in its infancy she is willing to sacrifice and mold herself to fulfill her partner’s needs. She will think a lot about him, about his likings and disliking and will try her best to make her feel comfortable and cozy. She tends to forget herself and her feelings, her thoughts, and her needs all show up once she matures and this is the time when then she realizes how she had been busy in giving herself away and how she never cared for her own feelings.

Once she feels the need to fulfill her dreams then she will begin to set limits and will expect him to fulfill her needs. This unexpected change confuses him and he feels like she is trying to withdraw away from the relationship. He might try to sort things out but as he does not know the real reason behind her withdrawal so he isn’t able to solve this confusing problem. Slowly the distance between the two increases and the relationship goes to gallows.

To avoid such disastrous end results males must give to her everything they can from the day-one of their relationship so that once their relationship grows then the feelings of being neglected by the other doesn’t creep in.

While in younger years, males are more self-absorbed and unaware of the needs of others, they are busy with their own life and midst of all this they forget that their partner has some dreams, which need to be looked after. When he matures then he realizes how he can better serve and respect others. His major change is becoming more aware of how he can succeed in giving.

But what I want to emphasize here is the fact that males should develop this maturity as soon as possible. They must understand the fact that she deserves her dreams and if she has molded herself to fulfill his needs then why can’t he do that? After all it is their relationship, which will grow stronger and stronger if both of them think about the other.

There’s a vast difference between the words “like” and “love”; if you know this then carry on reading this till the end. This is not a message to change the boys who are good, honest, and humane and are looking for love and relationship. Well all that I want to convey is significantly very clear from the title, “good girls like bad boys”. When I said this phrase to some of my female friends, I faced a huge resentment from them where they clearly stated me that “no! Never!”, “at the end the girl always desire for a good guy”. Hey! Wait a minute! Did I mention the word “end”?

The word “Like” means to find something pleasant. “Love” is to like someone in the strongest possible way. So, I hope you got the difference in the simplest words. There has been a considerable change in the mindset on the current generation urban girl of the society. Now! If you imply the boundations on them then you can restrict them in four walls but not from watching M TV roadies or using internet. There has been a continues sway in terms of likes and dislikes, what we want to be in the long run and what we want to be currently are two very different things. There is something called an “x-factor”, which is present in many characteristics of boys that we categorize under the term bad.

Well there is something called “interesting”, which is far more important than “smart”, “dependable” and “intelligent”, in the priority list of modern girl. They want to be free. There is a major portion of every girl that believes in the fact, she is a girl, and she is a good girl. When such girls comes across a guy who is just not the right kind of person to know, he flirts, sometimes he smokes, sometimes he is passionate, he is careless, he is ill mannered, he is disrespecting the elders, he seldom drinks, he rides bike breaking the rules, he takes too many risks, he teases people, he is naughty, he takes credits of his work, he blames other people for his failures, he speaks absurd words in between, he stares at his female friends yet he is there for them all the time. Fellow boys view this guy as just another spoiled brat; the back bencher extroverts enjoy his company and are just like him and the goody-goody boys maintains a safe distance from him. This guy is not a criminal, he is average or above average in studies, he is liked immensely by some people and most important is that he is bad but not cheat, he is what he is(not fake), he lies but don’t ditch, he is careless but cute, he is interesting and never boring to be with.

All of us among the boys have an instinct to be on top, if we play we want to win, if we give exam we want to pass, the current gen boys have a desire to succeed. All of us turn out to be with many similar traits in our persona. When in such a scenario, a girl comes across the guy mentioned in second paragraph then firstly she will try to be far away from him and hesitate to know him closely. This guy is different and in a time will surely catch her eye. She might even advice her friends never to talk with this guy but she will observe him and at the end of the day think about him. All girls are mothers from within and have immense love and affection in them. Once she is friendly with this guy, she will start giving him more space in his mind then other guys she knows. This guy needs me! There will be an instinct in her that he is not bad, no one is bad by birth. Why does he smoke sometimes? His bad habits are too small as compared to his pure heart. This guy can change! In such a quest she would enter his life in a stronger way. She will try to experiment all that she ever wanted to do, may be break a few rules and prove to all that even she can be with bad, for those who had never taken her seriously and always taken her for granted. She would defend him in front of her other friends. Perhaps she would be sure that he flirts with many girls but all that he likes is her company. Her love can change him, she will change him! In such a stronger effort she eventually likes him too much. The dedicated female beings give in emotions and care. Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys, the following set sequence of thoughts are responsible for this phenomenon. As we advance in life, we learn the limits of our ability. Even if you completely disagree with me then too think about it!

My priority with this article has been to tell them (the guys of today) my thoughts with clear small sentences and fast interesting format. At the end of the day they must leave the page with a mindset that I wanted to convey and I want “all good boys”, to never be confused that what is in this bad guy that is missing in him. As it’s not the ability of boy but the mindset of females that makes the difference

This article is a guest post from Pulkit, a passionate print media writer, who is trying hard to switch to this mad planet of bloggers. He happens to be a great friend of mine and possess all the ingredients to be a famous blogger. Do check his new blog on blogger.