Good Girls Like Bad Boys!
There’s a vast difference between the words “like” and “love”; if you know this then carry on reading this till the end. This is not a message to change the boys who are good, honest, and humane and are looking for love and relationship. Well all that I want to convey is significantly very clear from the title, “good girls like bad boys”. When I said this phrase to some of my female friends, I faced a huge resentment from them where they clearly stated me that “no! Never!”, “at the end the girl always desire for a good guy”. Hey! Wait a minute! Did I mention the word “end”?
The word “Like” means to find something pleasant. “Love” is to like someone in the strongest possible way. So, I hope you got the difference in the simplest words. There has been a considerable change in the mindset on the current generation urban girl of the society. Now! If you imply the boundations on them then you can restrict them in four walls but not from watching M TV roadies or using internet. There has been a continues sway in terms of likes and dislikes, what we want to be in the long run and what we want to be currently are two very different things. There is something called an “x-factor”, which is present in many characteristics of boys that we categorize under the term bad.
Well there is something called “interesting”, which is far more important than “smart”, “dependable” and “intelligent”, in the priority list of modern girl. They want to be free. There is a major portion of every girl that believes in the fact, she is a girl, and she is a good girl. When such girls comes across a guy who is just not the right kind of person to know, he flirts, sometimes he smokes, sometimes he is passionate, he is careless, he is ill mannered, he is disrespecting the elders, he seldom drinks, he rides bike breaking the rules, he takes too many risks, he teases people, he is naughty, he takes credits of his work, he blames other people for his failures, he speaks absurd words in between, he stares at his female friends yet he is there for them all the time. Fellow boys view this guy as just another spoiled brat; the back bencher extroverts enjoy his company and are just like him and the goody-goody boys maintains a safe distance from him. This guy is not a criminal, he is average or above average in studies, he is liked immensely by some people and most important is that he is bad but not cheat, he is what he is(not fake), he lies but don’t ditch, he is careless but cute, he is interesting and never boring to be with.
All of us among the boys have an instinct to be on top, if we play we want to win, if we give exam we want to pass, the current gen boys have a desire to succeed. All of us turn out to be with many similar traits in our persona. When in such a scenario, a girl comes across the guy mentioned in second paragraph then firstly she will try to be far away from him and hesitate to know him closely. This guy is different and in a time will surely catch her eye. She might even advice her friends never to talk with this guy but she will observe him and at the end of the day think about him. All girls are mothers from within and have immense love and affection in them. Once she is friendly with this guy, she will start giving him more space in his mind then other guys she knows. This guy needs me! There will be an instinct in her that he is not bad, no one is bad by birth. Why does he smoke sometimes? His bad habits are too small as compared to his pure heart. This guy can change! In such a quest she would enter his life in a stronger way. She will try to experiment all that she ever wanted to do, may be break a few rules and prove to all that even she can be with bad, for those who had never taken her seriously and always taken her for granted. She would defend him in front of her other friends. Perhaps she would be sure that he flirts with many girls but all that he likes is her company. Her love can change him, she will change him! In such a stronger effort she eventually likes him too much. The dedicated female beings give in emotions and care. Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys, the following set sequence of thoughts are responsible for this phenomenon. As we advance in life, we learn the limits of our ability. Even if you completely disagree with me then too think about it!
My priority with this article has been to tell them (the guys of today) my thoughts with clear small sentences and fast interesting format. At the end of the day they must leave the page with a mindset that I wanted to convey and I want “all good boys”, to never be confused that what is in this bad guy that is missing in him. As it’s not the ability of boy but the mindset of females that makes the difference
This article is a guest post from Pulkit, a passionate print media writer, who is trying hard to switch to this mad planet of bloggers. He happens to be a great friend of mine and possess all the ingredients to be a famous blogger. Do check his new blog on blogger.
Really nice article man!
Even I am fed up with these kinda girls but what to do..dunno how to recognize them…they don’t have any marks on their faces..lolz
Stumbled!
Comment by Sunny — July 6, 2008 @ 2:42 am
Very interesting article which touches quite a sensible theme ,you’ll not find many good girls who would recognize they are attracted by bad boys !!!
However , especially in early years of her adolescence almost every good girl has sobbed about nonconformist boys , the ones who dare to defy the rules and authorities associates with them . In her eyes ,such boys appear as possible heroes -kind of Robin Hood genre -or at least having the capacity of becoming one .In time ,as they grow up and become more mature emotionally and psychologically , they pass by this stage and eventually learn how to appreciate the good boys .If you’re a good boy , all you have to do is to wait patiently for your time to come . Is better to be appreciated by an equilibrated girl than to win the admiration of a fickle one.
Comment by Zelda — July 6, 2008 @ 2:58 am
We like to feel that a man can look after us and keep us safe
Nice article
Comment by Joanne — July 6, 2008 @ 5:36 am
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Pingback by 3 » Good Girls Like Bad Boys!! — July 6, 2008 @ 2:39 pm
That’s the way it always been. Saddle tramps and cowboys, too.
Comment by Digitalnomad — July 7, 2008 @ 5:36 am
Hi!
The Fourth paragraph is actually means the theme of the article, yes! I agree most of the goody girls like the bad boys and they believe their love that they could change the characters of the bad boys….
Comment by Rowena — July 7, 2008 @ 2:22 pm
thanks for the comments
Comment by pulkit — July 7, 2008 @ 3:32 pm
hi!…
i agree with mr.pulkit….when he says that” good girls like bad boys”.. he is indeed true, but that is just for a pinch of time, such relationships never last.
as u know…” the hottest love stories have the coldest ends”…
we girls do find a bit of naughtiness and sportiness iin boys but i think word “BAD” has been used too cruely. a relationship can exist only if both the partners are mutually responsible.
those called as ” bad boys” may have a ‘one night stunt’ or a ‘one month stunt’…but a genuinely “GOOD” girl would never prefer a “BAD” boy for a long term relationship…
Comment by akrati — July 7, 2008 @ 6:18 pm
hmmm…dtzz rlyy vryy sweet dear pulkit….bt i dn knw yyy…u knw i agreee daht may b GOOD GALZ LIK BAD BOYZZZ bt itz juz al abt likinnn dtzz itt…or u may cal it infctutnn u knw…..u knw naaa OPPSITE ATTRCTZZ!!! itz juz kind f one challngee….daht good galz wna to b with bad boyzz btt atlstt dfntllyy thy prefrr GOODY GOODY BOYZZ OKI,,,,,
Comment by irisha — July 7, 2008 @ 8:16 pm
well, this is interesting. You seem to be promoting the article very well Pulkit
You have started to learn the basics of blogging very well. After writing you need to promote what you have written..
@ comment 2 (zelda): I agree 100% with you. Guys should wait for the right girl (and same goes with girls) instead of scrwing up their lives with the opposite sex who is their to have fun..just have fun!
@ comment 3 (Joanne): lolz..short and to the point…
@ comment 6 (Rowena): yeah ..that is what for they come close to us…to change us…but at the end..they themselves are changed!! at least in cases which I have seen…may be I have those kinda friends who prefer changing people around them instead of changing themselves
@ comment 8 (akrati): I liked the way you pointed out mutual responsibility. very true..guys to seem to give up themselves for the external charm which girls seem to posses. but you cannot help…guys are that way…
@ comment 9 (irisha): you said exactly what pulkit has said..it is about “liking”..he never wanted you people to confuse love and liking with this article…his last article on this blog was about love…this one about liking..their is that marginal difference which he has stated…correctly I think?!?!
Comment by Salman — July 7, 2008 @ 9:15 pm
you have really spoken the hearts of a girl. Girls are really pessimist abt bad guys but eventually end in liking them too.
Comment by rohit — July 8, 2008 @ 12:06 am
hey bud..good to see you here
seems like you have seen many cases where girls end up falling for guyz.
Comment by Salman — July 8, 2008 @ 12:09 am
hey i thnk this tyme pukit jst too mch simplifying the topicc….cz this so natural phenomena..opposite attracts..ppl try to find shelter there..which complement them… these applicable to gud gl also..cz they jst got fed upp of their guddy guudy kinda lyfe…..and u cant jst say simplfyy all gud gl or bad gllzz like bad boy…this is nt true….and in second paragraph..he mentioned that due to effect of mtv and all…i dnt thnk so..and even in the pastttt in villages…glz alwayzz like that kinda guy..jst shw in filmzz thakurs son and all!!..cz alwayz unusual count in crowd..and here applies too in the case of glzzz whether they r bad or gud…cz usualyy so called bad boy mentioned here havin the quality that badly needed by the boyzz to impress gll..whehter cool lukz,bikezz,,or six pack abs[:P]..but at end of theyy….the likin of bad boyy…is jst like crush kinda thngz..that happen and happen at each n every day,week, monthz and so on…so this will goes continuee….cz that kinda frndshpp doesnt exist longg…so gud guy no need to worryy..u dnt need to live fake lyfec for posin urself super cool…czz truth is alwayzz there to livee.. .hav funnn
Comment by zafar — July 8, 2008 @ 11:31 pm
looks like people aren’t reading the last couple of lines of this article (may be because it is a little lengthy)
“Whether this liking turns to love or marriage or anything else is not what is my concern but this is a fact that good girls like bad boys…”
hold on to your nerves Pulkit…readers seemed to have messed it up a little..I still appreciate this article considering that it was just the #2
Comment by Salman — July 8, 2008 @ 11:46 pm
(@comment 1)(sunny)thanks for the appreciation,the only way that i seem to know for now is that this tendency di exist,will further analyse some day how to find them
thanks for all the support and love and affection, my mentor!!
(@ comment 2)(zelda) this one is probably the closest to the view that i wanted to conclude, thanks for such in depth feed back, i really appreciate it .
(@ comment 3)(joanne) thanks for the feedback
(@ akriti) thanks for verifying the work with ur honest reply!! ur time and feedback had always been precious for me sis
(@ irisha) thanks for commenting on the work mam and for all the support and help that u always gave me while working for it
(@ rohit) its good to get compliment of being close to girl’s heart by a fellow boy
(@ zafar sir) i had always been heavily critisised by my pessimistic attitude towards M tv roadies etc etc but with the comparitive increase of this trend i mentioned in here, as it is this phenomena might be present in the villages too but my mention of urban life came cos that was my personal inspiration for it, i have clearly stated that this is not an attmept to change positivity in boys and thereby still if i hurt ur sentiments in anyway,i apologise
(@ salman sir) thanks for all the support sir, i have always been heavily critisiced for the themes that i chose for the articles and that comments are always close to my heart so dont worry it wud not demoralise me instead it makes me proud that how deeply i spat the thoughts in the face of readers, i write what i believe and if i gets critisicm ,then it makes me belief that i was right..
Comment by pulkit — July 9, 2008 @ 5:06 pm
i also noticed nearly every reader with the clear viewpoint of opposites attract…
but i am a firm believer that this happens in the case of a little complex from within cos i believe that birds of a feather flock together, since i had been researching on disputed topics lately for my own blog then if opposites attract whats the whole dispute between blacks and white race?? anyways if u also believe that opposite attract then just think about the girl or boy u had a crush on, was she or he totally opposite to u? or think of the boy or girl u hated the most , was the person just similar to u? well if the person u hate is not ur opposite neither similar, then what is it? the point of opposite attraction in the above para has been justified by a motherly compassion of females that i have mentioned and its too apt for them cos i believe the r “complicated”, and thats what makes them “intresting”, so pls justify any other similar evidence and pls note the concluding para as well as the clear distinction beteen like and love that have been mentioned ablove, it might help u to be with my theme and enjoying this work even more… happy reading!!
Comment by pulkit — July 9, 2008 @ 5:15 pm
hey very first pukit we r discussin here a topic…so everyone hav there point of view..and that doesnt necessary everyone shud thnk same…so no need to apology kinda thngg..nahi to i wont b able to write wht i thott abt a particular topic..and abt mtv topic..debate cant stop…u can thnk that itz nt gud..but i thnkk..everyone haz a ryte to take thng accoding to himm..cz wht we thnk here in many term is bad…is nt bad or against culture in west..so itz totally upbringing and enviroment that affect..and positivity kinda thng..i jst try to give advice to the boyzz..who can carried away by this topic…cz ur headingzz is jst attack directly on the ppl mind.and strength their ongoin funda “Bad is Gud”..n .can compel a guy thnk like…badness is necessity for a so call gf thng..and dear u r again mixing up the topicss..no need to simplyfying too m ch.czz ooposite attractz is so true in term of likin and dislikin b/w a gl and bad…but we r nt sayin that will applicable evrywhere..here ma mean to say by opposite attractz thng..wen u havin sumthn unsuaul with u whether itz internal or externall..u will get noticed and u cant deny of that..and wht u said gud glz like bad boyzz…thtz due to uncommoness..to break the boredom of gudness….and oppsoite attrack nt meann u wiill surely hav a crush on a ppl or hate kinda…but itzz help two pppl to come closer either in term of person u start love,like or frndshpp or start hatinn,rivalry kinda…opposite attractz meanzz unusuality clashes,come in notice easliy…..
Comment by zafar — July 10, 2008 @ 12:02 am
thankfully all this is virtual else you guys might have started to kick each other buy now…like in parliaments
you actually have made this post to be the second most popular post in this blog when it comes to commenting. My first post raised 19 comments and this one already has 17 of them (including this one) …good going Mr. writer
and as zafar said…don’t apologize..be firm with what you said and be ready to discuss it … jus no need to apologize..
as far as this off topic discussion Opposites Attract is concerned …I think it is the gift of movies which we watch regularly. I just don’t believe that sumone who is totally opposite to me will be attracted to me or I will start running behind her. NO! as time passes you will come to know that their were some hidden similarities which were the reason why you to started gelling together.
No set rule, no set article, no set tips…its all about time..here we just try to make things a little simpler…
by the way you can have a new article hint here “Do opposites really attract?”
try it if you want to…I already have a backup of around 8 articles ready with me so I won’t be trying this for next couple of months..
Comment by Salman — July 10, 2008 @ 4:16 am