She Isn’t Looking For Solutions While She Details Her Problems
I have already written a lot about this before but somehow I kept feeling the need to write about this once again to emphasize on few more points which I missed out the last time.
For males speech is the way of sharing knowledge and the best way to find peace is to stay lonely sometimes. If he is talking too much then it is just because he is very excited and is free from all his problems. Thus, they expect a similar behavior from females. When she shares her problems he starts searching for solutions and this is his biggest mistake.
For females sharing thoughts and talking about their problems is the best way to cool off their brains. When they share their problems, they expect their partners to sit back and listen to them with full dedication. And she gets frustrated once he starts working on the solutions for those problems.
Once she is confused at something she will prefer to talk about it and with time he will observe how easily she puts forward all the minute details of her problems in front of him. Here, instead of providing a solution all what he needs to do is ask her “So what will you be doing? I am sure you have a way out of this.” Believe me, she herself will put forward the solution. She wasn’t ever looking for a solution from you, she just wanted some boost up so that her confidence level increases.
Similarly at times she might first talk about one problem and then suddenly jump over to the other problem. She may even go on to talk about three to four problems at one time and leaves him confused about the kind of solution he should provide. He starts relating those problems and finds himself frustrated once he fails to relate those problems.
Now you know the reason for her behavior? She finds relief when she talks about her problems so better let her do the talking; and also, boost her confidence by telling her that she is capable of solving it herself. She will feel cherished.
