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Give Love Another Chance

Salman — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 11:05:45 +0000

Can a relationship that has suffered a nasty split be reconstructed again? If you can fight with a sibling and get back together; revolt against your parents and be accepted back in the fold again; disagree with friends and be reconciled, what’s so unnatural about a rapprochement with your spouse? How many times siblings betray your faith when they tattle to parents or destroy your book in a fit of anger! So what’s so much worse when you think a spouse has betrayed you? If the life you have shared with each other has been good and meaningful, why would you let one mistake wipe out that memory? Wouldn’t you give life another chance?

If it is easy to forgive yourself when you believe you have made a mistake or sinned, why should it be more difficult to extend the same generosity to your spouse? There have been so many cases where couples who separated have united once again after sorting out the disputes between them.

Happy reconciliations or compromises, genuine love or just a bonding – the couples alone would know. But what matters is that to all appearances, they present a dignified front and a togetherness that has surmounted hardships. Their bond is probably stronger now since there are no pretensions about it. No airy references to everlasting romance; no illusions about themselves, about each other or about their relationship. The second time round it is the bond they have entered with eyes wide open, quite sure of where to draw the line; with minimal expectations and with a genuine desire to give the relationship a chance.

What a contrast to the first time round, when you enter marriage enveloped in a rose-tinted cloud; high on expectations and clutching your exit clause in case the things go wrong. When expectations are high, there is bound to be disappointment. Not even the luckiest of us is likely to land a spouse who matches our wish list. At the time of the second coming though, you are already aware of all that could go wrong and apart of making a greater effort, you are more eager to be pleased. The past is buried out of sight, but not out of mind.

Often when the lessons to be learned in the relationship are completed, the relationship has natural ending and the two souls move on. Also, there are many types of love and many types of soul relationships. Romantic love is only one of these types.

If you believe this, you would believe that Destiny in an estranged couple coming together again. And surely the lessons to be learnt would be absorbed with a more open mind this time round. You only need to be vigilant as to what is the lesson to be learnt – Is it patience? Forgiveness? Lessening of anger? Dealing with pain? Sensitivity towards others? It could be one or all of these, but the ultimate lesson to be learnt is the lesson of love. Give it the second chance!

Proposal Tip - Print Your Message In Everyone’s T-Shirts

Salman — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 11:04:50 +0000

Well, you might have taught about writing your message on your t-shirt when you are about to propose her but did you ever think about asking all the people in her workplace to wear that t-shirt? Take my suggestion and buy some novelty t-shirts with your message printed on them. I am sure that you will leave her surprised.

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments below or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.

Proposal Tip - Save Your Proposal Message In Her Camcorder

Salman — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 11:04:42 +0000

How about buying a new camcorder for her and inserting few images in it that will tell her what you feel about her. She will surely be surprised when she checks the archives.

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments below or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.

Friendship With Your Ex

Salman — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:09:32 +0000

“Learn the alchemy true human beings know. The moment you accept what troubles you have been given, the door will open.” — Rumi

ANGST.Fear.Hatred.Resentment. Many a broken relationship has gone through all these phases and more. Yet, in some cases the individuals involved have managed to compartmentalize love and friendship in an almost clinical manner. When your heart is bleeding and your mind is overruling the condition, who do you follow? How do you overlook the intense pain and immense hurt and treat the other as a buddy? Especially since he /she is responsible for the grief you’re experiencing.

In every relationship the pair tends to close in so well that they start understanding each other’s thoughts and they get addicted to the other’s presence. Addicted might be the wrong word for some but generally it is true. When you spend your day and night with one particular person, share everything about you with her, and think about her when she isn’t around then your brain gets addicted to that persons presence and once you come to know that it is all over, you yourself break apart.

Still I think people should try once to sort things out. Start with a new friendship because believe it or not when a relationship breaks it hurts her the most. Guys can cover their pains easily but girls have the knack of relying on her partner and after a breakup she finds it difficult to gather herself (mind you, here I am talking about females who are serious with the relationship.)

After a breakup both of them should try to take a short break from the other. Sit back for a few days and relax. Try and forget whatever happened and after you have cooled off then start trying to create a bond of friendship once again just because of one reason: she is the one who knows you inside out and you are the one who knows her inside out and it might take months before you actually find a replacement. So why not help each other during that time period?

The texture of every relationship is unique and only the two individuals involved in it know best what completes them. It takes ample maturity to be able to look beyond the negativity that’s transpired between the two and the bond as buddies. If it is worth it, why not walk that extra mile?

Learn To Care For Her If She Isn’t Well

Salman — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:07:49 +0000

This is very important. There might be times when she is not feeling well but you have to do your work so as to pay the bills. During this time you must bring in some devices like pulse oximeter or something that suits her problems and teach her how to use those.

It will surely help her and decreases your tension.

Another Center For Acne Patients

Salman — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:07:47 +0000

I have already written a lot about acne in my previous posts and I think I have found another great resource for people facing acne issues. Do check that site as I guess they have good resources which will help you out.

Proposal Tip - Is She Crazy About Pets?

Salman — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:07:35 +0000

Is your girl friend crazy about pets? If yes then why not gift her pet beds? And arrange your message on or under the bed sheet. Short, simple, and yet surprising!

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments below or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.

Proposal Tip - How About Proposing Some 10,000 Feet Above The 5 Star Hotel?

Salman — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:07:03 +0000

Yes I am talking about taking her on a plane if you plan to make the proposal special. Recently I was reading about rc helicopter when I thought won’t it be great if you hire the machine, make it fly right over the best hotel in town, and then propose her right there.

How did you propose her? Or do you have any unique ideas of proposing her? I would love to hear those in comments below or maybe you would like to tell me that in private.

Your Relationship Will Never End Cordially!

Salman — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 11:00:38 +0000

The general agony of every broken heart is that “I never thought that it will end like this”, well with every partner that comes our way as we sped along the relationships in our life we tend to form a certain bond and I think every one who calls himself or herself as non ditching friend or an honest lover will disagree with the fact that it was extremely hurting to get away from the one we loved so much.

The relationships and matters of heart are extremely complicated in comparison with other problems that we come across in life.

Every now and then we like certain people whom we call as friends and someone who is above the range of friendship too. The genuine scenario that we like being with that people justifies our attraction and affection towards them and in the springs of bonds they have an illusion that good times will never end but sadly and most unfortunately not always things work out the way we had supposed them to. Arguments, differences of opinion and many other reasons personal and public way of dealing with things of the individuals involved can result in the sad word called “break up”. A diverse range of emotions, mental trauma, and feelings are experienced for a long period of time, sometimes excessive gladness and happiness and sometimes extreme depression leading to suicidal thoughts can eventually develop in a recently heart broken mind. It might take months to end and sometimes years but from the side of the person that was more involved in the relationship emotionally, he or she is left out with the question “I never wanted this to end like this . Why?”

Well, from the third persons point of view a relationship before leading to break up shows many signs of cracks and personal differences and now once you are out of it then after a period of time you realize that it was ought to end but why did it ended with so much pain. Here in this article I am not providing you the tools to reduce break up pain or the tips to avoid break up. What I am up to is the answer that lies to this question, why did it ended with so much pain?

Among the two people involved, one will have to take the initiative to call the things end, this implies that gradually the other will suffer the most and perhaps ask this question to himself or herself, but you know what? It would have never ended had your partners be a little more compassionate towards you and expecting it to end cordially seems to be impossible dream.

The law of science says a single break resilience to stop a machine, a cycle for e.g. has two breaks, one that is of left and stops the back tire and one on right that stops the front tire, a bike has a break near the foot that pushes the back tire to stop immediately when pressed, a car too has breaks which stops the tires on the back, no simple machine has a spring that when pressed stops the front and back wheels simultaneously, similar is our relationships and life around them. It wont stop with both the partners stepping down and calling the relationship off, gradually one of the two will tear apart the threads of promises and will leave the other one in grief.

Yeah! This is life. Except in case of friends with benefits, where the physical motives are involved and once the sexual needs are satisfied then the formula of kiss and goodbye applies but I don’t call those as relationships. In the bonds where true feelings are involved, the suffering is always more for one person and relation ends with the withdrawal of the other! Sadly but truly speaking when you love someone , the grief of separation is unbearable. When you love someone and you get hurt. It’s like a cut, it will heal but the scar will always be there.

Whenever I cried you always made me feel like you would change the world if you could so that it couldn’t hurt me anymore but now I am crying and you’re not here. When I see you smile and I know that its not for me, that is when I miss you the most.

This article is a guest post from Pulkit, a passionate print media writer, who is trying hard to switch to this mad planet of bloggers. He happens to be a great friend of mine and possess all the ingredients to be a famous blogger. Do check his new blog on blogger.

She Has Creative Brain? Give Her Something That Will Help Her

Salman — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 10:59:43 +0000

Many females are of innovative types and they keep using things which we guys use. Like I know a lady who regularly uses box cutter in her day to day life. Sometimes you can be innovative too when you are about to gift her something which will help her to ease her life.