Your Relationship Will Never End Cordially!
The general agony of every broken heart is that “I never thought that it will end like this”, well with every partner that comes our way as we sped along the relationships in our life we tend to form a certain bond and I think every one who calls himself or herself as non ditching friend or an honest lover will disagree with the fact that it was extremely hurting to get away from the one we loved so much.
The relationships and matters of heart are extremely complicated in comparison with other problems that we come across in life.
Every now and then we like certain people whom we call as friends and someone who is above the range of friendship too. The genuine scenario that we like being with that people justifies our attraction and affection towards them and in the springs of bonds they have an illusion that good times will never end but sadly and most unfortunately not always things work out the way we had supposed them to. Arguments, differences of opinion and many other reasons personal and public way of dealing with things of the individuals involved can result in the sad word called “break up”. A diverse range of emotions, mental trauma, and feelings are experienced for a long period of time, sometimes excessive gladness and happiness and sometimes extreme depression leading to suicidal thoughts can eventually develop in a recently heart broken mind. It might take months to end and sometimes years but from the side of the person that was more involved in the relationship emotionally, he or she is left out with the question “I never wanted this to end like this . Why?”
Well, from the third persons point of view a relationship before leading to break up shows many signs of cracks and personal differences and now once you are out of it then after a period of time you realize that it was ought to end but why did it ended with so much pain. Here in this article I am not providing you the tools to reduce break up pain or the tips to avoid break up. What I am up to is the answer that lies to this question, why did it ended with so much pain?
Among the two people involved, one will have to take the initiative to call the things end, this implies that gradually the other will suffer the most and perhaps ask this question to himself or herself, but you know what? It would have never ended had your partners be a little more compassionate towards you and expecting it to end cordially seems to be impossible dream.
The law of science says a single break resilience to stop a machine, a cycle for e.g. has two breaks, one that is of left and stops the back tire and one on right that stops the front tire, a bike has a break near the foot that pushes the back tire to stop immediately when pressed, a car too has breaks which stops the tires on the back, no simple machine has a spring that when pressed stops the front and back wheels simultaneously, similar is our relationships and life around them. It wont stop with both the partners stepping down and calling the relationship off, gradually one of the two will tear apart the threads of promises and will leave the other one in grief.
Yeah! This is life. Except in case of friends with benefits, where the physical motives are involved and once the sexual needs are satisfied then the formula of kiss and goodbye applies but I don’t call those as relationships. In the bonds where true feelings are involved, the suffering is always more for one person and relation ends with the withdrawal of the other! Sadly but truly speaking when you love someone , the grief of separation is unbearable. When you love someone and you get hurt. It’s like a cut, it will heal but the scar will always be there.
Whenever I cried you always made me feel like you would change the world if you could so that it couldn’t hurt me anymore but now I am crying and you’re not here. When I see you smile and I know that its not for me, that is when I miss you the most.
This article is a guest post from Pulkit, a passionate print media writer, who is trying hard to switch to this mad planet of bloggers. He happens to be a great friend of mine and possess all the ingredients to be a famous blogger. Do check his new blog on blogger.
well! another attempt of mine to alayse human relations of love in its post and pre form!
do leave a comment so that i may get ur views about this.
will try to improve in my next post here!
and will reply to each and every comment and querry here itself, thats a promise!
so feels free for any discussion and cross questions.
regards
Comment by pulkit — September 28, 2008 @ 9:41 pm
xcellent post man…ful of emotions n thots,,,actually an overflow of them !
gd work bro,,
y dnt u forward me some of ur articles n i’ll send them to the TOI in delhi..!!
Comment by Sunny — September 28, 2008 @ 11:03 pm
nice article … keep writing
Comment by ekam — September 29, 2008 @ 4:49 pm
a bit 2 complex 2 understand nd mixed emotions 2 mucch interwoven. wasn’t clear wat was d writer tryin 2 say.tat simplicity nd clarity which sallu’s articles contain was simply lacking.
in all a gud attempt bt lacked tat intriguing feature which wud stop d reader 2 hav a glance upon.
m no xpert myself bt m i wrote wat i felt.
jus b a lil short nd 2 d point dude no one has so mucch time to go through all d long stories………….
keep writin
aloha
Comment by dj — September 30, 2008 @ 12:10 pm
A well written piece. I agree with the author when he says that
‘The relationships and matters of heart are extremely complicated in comparison with other problems that we come across in life.’
But what I feel that the writer has been a bit partial towards the word break-up, break-up is quite a vast word, so its proper usage is necessary. It is not caused just because of mutual differences and personal frictions, rather it is sometimes caused by external influences, and that situation when you are not sure of whether the feelings have been totally curbed from an individual is graver. The feeling of being left bereft and isolated is indeed hear breaking but the situation neutralizes when you know that at least from one of the partner there is total blackout of feelings (perhaps this is the aspect of ‘break-up’ the writer ha mentioned in this article), but what do u do when you know that both of you still love each other, you still dream of each other but still there is a ridge called ‘break-up’?
I think the writer needed to research more on this word called “break-up”. Though I love the last paragraph,
‘ Whenever I cried you always made me feel like you would change the world if you could so that it couldn’t hurt me anymore but now I am crying and you’re not here. When I see you smile and I know that its not for me, that is when I miss you the most.’
This leaves the reader engrossed in thought and a person who has “loved and lost” is totally submerged in these lines, I have been subjected to a lot of articles of the author and I find this signature style of his writings, laudable
Comment by akrati — October 1, 2008 @ 9:09 am
wel.. its a bittr truth of one’s life.. its true dat one can cros an ocean wtout wettin his legs.. bt can’t cros his love n life wtout wettin his eyes…
At last i wud say dat it is a lovely article bhaiya… u did a gr8 job as alwas.. n i thnk wt dis article many ppl wil get guidance who r sufferin frm dis unbearable pain…
Comment by mety — October 1, 2008 @ 5:50 pm
wow pulkit!
great attempt on relationships!
very emotive nd profound…
Comment by riya singh — October 2, 2008 @ 4:29 pm
hey bhai a nice one…i juzz loved it..this the real face of love..its all full of love.and pain too..wel bahi i must say gr8 ablity to understand ppl…and its all truee.well i would relly love to see more of ur writtingss..soon..really amazing..
Comment by shagun — October 2, 2008 @ 4:44 pm
really,,,
best artcle i have ever seen..
keep writting..
gud job….keep it up !!
Comment by irfan — October 3, 2008 @ 6:30 pm
@ sunny! thanks for the comment and the offer man!\
@ ekam! thanks for the appreciation
@ dj- somewhat i failed to convey myself to you clearly, will try again next time with a better work.
@ akrati! well this article was a follow up of a statement of a gal who came up to me and said that i always knew that my relationship will end but i never wanted this to end up like this, it could have been more cordial and this was a reply to her question that i failed to give few days back but thought keep bumping up within me and in the end i expressed what i felt, it was not based on the causes and defination of break up, dear sis! that word just came as a mention to draw attention for some other context, i promise to ya tha will write something totally focussed on that word to clear your troubles with me talking it casuaaly and unconditionally, thanks for the compliment to my atyle of writing sis! will try to please you more next time and will try to remove errors of this time
@ mety : beautiful comment deary, love you a lot for thiis.
@ riya : thanks a lot for appreciation dear
@ shagun : thanks for the healthy and honest praise sis! miss u a lot
@ IRFAN : hey man! u know what? this is not just a comment, its a motivation, a praise that i will never forget, will try to maintain my standard! people like you are my inspiration to write. love u a lot sir! “aapka hi karam hai , aur aapke hi fasane, warna kya mere nagme , kya meri hasti!!! ”
thanks a lot
Comment by pulkit — October 3, 2008 @ 6:43 pm
heya to everyone!
PLEASE FOLLOW ME on my new blog!
19goes20.blogspot.com
i need your blessings there,
will be back to answer all the follow up comments here as well as to write something challenging again and thats a promise!! and i am trying to display other ranges of my observational and analytic way of writings there.
thanks and i hope to see you there!
god bless eyeryone.
regards
Comment by pulkit — October 3, 2008 @ 6:46 pm
well done !! gr8 job.. ur words r really heart touching…
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Comment by zo — December 2, 2008 @ 10:44 am
If he’s a “print writer” he must have a good editor, although not here. His english is awkward, his grammar is poor, and his thoughts are nearly incoherent.
Warren
Comment by warren — April 25, 2009 @ 6:37 pm